Now booking workshops at colleges & universities for the 2014-2015 school year! CHECK OUT MRSEXSMITH.COM for all the information on prices & what I’m teaching.

I’m very excited to be working with OUTmedia, the leading LGBTQ cultural activist organization in the US, who will be booking my performances and workshops. Want to work with me? contact or 


Some men got cunts, its hawt. #FTMfucker #BonusHoleBoys


Some men got cunts, its hawt. #FTMfucker #BonusHoleBoys

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AM Tonight host Alicia Menendez and I did something fun, awkward and enlightening. Alicia suggested that I “flip the script”on her during our interview about my book Redefining Realness and ask her all the invasive questions I’m asked to prove my validity during interviews.

The following is a series of screengrabs where I ask her to prove her identity as a woman to me by asking about puberty, her transition from girl to woman, her genitalia and whether she used tampons. This was beyond uncomfortable but I hope our demonstration illuminates the problem in our media culture and it serves as a teaching moment for us all about self-determination and the fact that we are all valid, real and don’t need anyone’s interrogation into our lives, bodies and identities.

You can watch the full interview about my book Redefining Realness at Fusion, where I discuss my childhood, sex work and the power of telling our own stories.

I LOVE JANET MOCK thank you for this. YES YES I want to shout at my screen in support. 

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Tobi Hill-Meyer: Trans Positive Porn Trailblazer

interviewed by Courtney Trouble

"Tobi is incredibly knowledgable in all things queer; creative, smart, compassionate, inspiring, positive, hilarious, open, and somehow manages to see The Whole Picture where others just see holes. She’s also a genre-busting queer porn performer and porn maker who expertly, and sometimes even subversively, educates her audience while titillating them mercilessly. The last time she performed on one of my sets, she taught her co-star, and the world, how good muffing can feel. And now, I’ve got about a million questions for her and it’s gonna take me two columns to introduce her to you, if you don’t know her already.” — read the entire interview with Tobi here!

This has been such a wonderful interview. It helps that it’s from someone who knows me pretty well, because they were able to ask me really insightful questions and about some things that most other interviewers don’t even know to ask about.



This is a helpful explanation about why it is not okay to frame all trans women as automatically having male privilege, however, it appears from the notes that it’s resulted a lot of people doing just that - although with a bunch of caveats such as “passing as male” privilege.  

I’ve got a lot I could say about analyzing the details of this very complicated scenario around misogyny, patriarchy and power, but let me address this from a different angle: Why does it matter? What do you hope to gain from placing trans women under a microscope for such detailed analysis?  If one trans woman experienced a moment of encouragement a midst a childhood of harassment, bullying, and assault, how does it help us to highlight that moment and call it a privilege? More often than not, the reason people do this is to shut trans women up.

Accusations of male privilege are common in the middle of anti-trans harassment campaigns. It’s been regularly cited as a justification for exclusion, public outing of trans women, letter writing campaigns to get trans women fired, or even stalking and exposing private information. If there’s some hypothetical benefit from understanding trans women’s experiences of male privilege, it’s far outweighed by this cost.

Finally, the reality is that any woman (cis or trans) who is put under such scrutiny can be explained to have some micron of male privilege. When you extend your search for “passing as male” privilege, temporary privilege, conditional privilege, and any moment of encouragement that isn’t immediately explained by other causes, there’s a lot. Does the cis woman raised with 5 brothers have male socialization? Does the cis woman who only has male friends, loves sports and is considered “just one of the guys” have male privilege?  Does the tomboy who’s occasionally mistaken for male by strangers have male privilege? Does the cis woman CEO who “leans in,” wears pant suits and adopts the mannerisms of her male counterparts have male privilege?

Sometimes we have those conversations, but when we’re talking about cis women it is never framed as an issue of male privilege. That’s because it’s insulting to do so. If people started picking apart Hillary Clinton’s “male privilege,” there would be outrage. The only reason it’s considered acceptable to do so with trans women is because it’s considered acceptable to be insulting and speak down to trans women.


[[[ from my art blog -]]]

TW: Cissexism, being a young trans girl, body dysphoria


[accessibility: it is dark, probably in a cave. there are two girls, one much younger than other, sitting side by side. the older one, in a green dress, is hiding in fear. weak and hurt…



I made suspenders that also happen to turn into an awesome chest/shoulder harness.

You can buy a custom-sized pair in the Rand Leather Etsy Shop.



Buck Angel #2. Austin, TX 2013


Buck Angel #2. Austin, TX 2013




Tobi should win a Muffing Award in 2014.

It would be awesome if the someone started giving out awards for Muffing.  (Psst, Feminist Porn Awards…)  I’d certainly be a contender, having included muffing in two scenes I’ve performed in and one that I directed in the past year.

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Call for submissions: Person Meets Person

Title: Person Meets Person
Editor: S.L. Armstrong
Publisher: Storm Moon Press
Deadline: June 30, 2014
Payment: $0.0075/word
Type: Trans*
Word count: 10k-20k

Don’t judge a book by its cover, or a person by their gender. There’s often more to someone than meets the eye. What happens when first impressions are proven wrong or assumptions turn out to be false? What’s it like for a character who comes with fine print? Some people just don’t fit the expected mold, and some of those people do something about it, showing the world who they really are inside.

Do your characters reinterpret what it means to be masculine or feminine? Do they transition from one gender to another? Do they decide to abandon the gender binary all together and blaze their own trail? Show us how your characters find love, romance, and hot sex while navigating the sometimes-tricky waters of love and gender identity.



We tell ourselves stories in order to live” Joan Didion

I recently attended a reading/lecture by writer Thomas Mcbee at the University of Chicago. Mcbee began by explaining his desire to create alternative narratives of transgender experience in the media as an editor and…




Last week I posted a list of books published in 2013 featuring queer people of color. Today I’m sharing a list of 2013 books featuring transgender and intersex people (whether intersex people exist under the umbrella of “trans” or not is up to intersex individuals, but I decided to err on the side of inclusion - if you’re not sure of the difference between transgender and intersex people, please refer to the Intersex Society of North America’s FAQ for starters).

There’s no way this list is exhaustive, or even close. These are also not personal recommendations, just every title I could find. If I was unsure about a book’s contents (that is, if I was unsure if the trans characters were prominent, or if I thought the book might be exploitative), I tended to give weight to who the author is (that is, I was more likely to include books I know were written by trans people). Of course, I’ll be happy to add books to the list if you have any suggestions that fit the theme! Here’s what I found, arranged by genre:


  • Golden Boy by by Abigail Tarttelin
  • I Know Very Well How I Got My Name by Elliot DeLine
  • Nevada by Imogen Binnie
  • The Seven Disclosures of a Trans Woman by Eva Odland
  • Tiresias by Devon Jones


  • Flawless by Cat Grant
  • Transparency by Ethan Stone and Sara York
  • Wallflower by Heidi Belleau

Young Adult

  • Freakboy by Kristin Elizabeth Clark
  • Love in the Time of Global Warming by Francesca Lia Block
  • Pantomime by Laura Lam
  • Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan

Picture Books

  • My New Daddy by Lilly Mossiano and Sage Mossiano
  • When Kayla was Kyle by Amy Fabrikant and Jennifer Levine


  • Spider Teeth by Ellie June Navidson
  • Wandering Son Vol. 5 by Shimura Takako and Matt Thorn


  • Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter by S. Bear Bergman
  • Bondage of the Self by Kaitlin Sine Riordan
  • The End of San Fransisco by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
  • Getting to Ellen by Ellen Krug
  • Making Mr. Wright: Memoirs of a Black Female-To-Male Transsexual by Reno Prestige Wright
  • Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son by Lori Duron
  • Stuck in the Middle With You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders by Jennifer Finney Boylan
  • Second Son by Ryan K. Sallans
  • Through the Door of Life: A Jewish Journey between Genders by Joy Ladin
  • Trauma Queen by Lovemmee Corazon
  • Warrior Princess: A U.S. Navy Seal’s Journey to Coming Out Transgender by Kristen Beck and Anne Speckhard

Nonfiction/Queer Studies

  • Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution by Shiri Eisner
  • Excluded by Julia Serano
  • The Gender Book by Mel Reiff Hill and Jay Mays
  • Gender Diversity, Recognition and Citizenship: Towards a Politics of Difference by Sally Hines
  • Gender & Sexuality for Beginners by Jaimee Garbacik and Jeffrey Lewis
  • Living Out Islam: Voices of Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Muslims by Scott Siraj al-Haqq Kugle
  • My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein
  • Professing Selves: Transsexuality and Same-Sex Desire in Contemporary Iran by Afsaneh Najmabadi
  • Transforming Citzenships: Transgender Articulations of the Law by Isaac West
  • The Transgender Studies Reader 2 edited by Susan Stryker and Aren Aizura
  • An UnSpoken Compromise: A Spiritual Guide for LGBT People of Faith by Rizi Xavier Timane Ph.D


  • SIRvival in the Second City: Transqueer Chicago Poems by H. Melt
  • Troubling the Line: Trans and Genderqueer Poetry and Poetics edited by TC Tolbert and Tim Trace Peterson
  • Wanting in Arabic: Second Edition by Trish Salah

Many thanks to Lambda Literary, and everyone that reads, reviews & tags queer books on tumblr and goodreads - without whom this list would be much more difficult to compile! Last year’s list can be found here.


Referral game updates! It’s a tight race, still! Get in the game here to win free copies of the book! 


Referral game updates! It’s a tight race, still! Get in the game here to win free copies of the book! 

Gender, Poetry, and Smut: Current Recommended ReadsI have stacks of books on my lists to tell y’all about, and so many other things to write to you…View Post

Gender, Poetry, and Smut: Current Recommended Reads

I have stacks of books on my lists to tell y’all about, and so many other things to write to you…

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It’s live, folks! This is possibly the one & only chance to get your hardback copy of The Gender Book! Do it do it!


Transgender Surgeons in the U.S.


We’re working on a user-friendly map for finding surgeons in the US. Please email us ( with any additions and edits you might have.


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