more than two/ polyamory/ jealousy: practice (via inventinghope)
I sort of agree with this, but as I’ve said before, often times “rules” are just a convenient way of saying “If you did this, it would make me sad” - and that’s not necessarily controlling, that’s communicating. And if you’re in a relationship with someone, you each deserve to know what the other finds upsetting.
“If you did this, I would be sad,” is indeed communicating. Which is very different from making a rule. An order of magnitude different.
I completely agree that partners should know about each other, and definitely should know what makes them happy and sad.